I mentioned that I had a playlist for myself. I decided it was time to talk about it and let it out there. Maybe this music will help other people someday or at least reassure someone that there were others like them. Click to continue reading.
Category Archives: Transition
Transgender Day of Visibility 2025
Hello. My name is Jen Dantes. I am:
- a married transgender white woman
- a technical support professional
- a writer
- a diabetic
- a person suffering from depression
I am all these things. All of them help to define me.
This is me being visible in the face of a government that wants to stifle me, deny me, say I don’t exist or am mentally ill (well, I knew that part) or am some kind of horrible person for the sheet reason of what I am. I am standing up and telling them no, in this little way.
Doesn’t matter what the press says. Doesn’t matter what the politicians or the mobs say. Doesn’t matter if the whole country decides that something wrong is something right. This nation was founded on one principle above all else: the requirement that we stand up for what we believe, no matter the odds or the consequences. When the mob and the press and the whole world tell you to move, your job is to plant yourself like a tree beside the river of truth, and tell the whole world — “No, you move.”
– Captain America
No, transphobes and MAGA and TERFS and all the rest of you who hate me for claiming my own identity.
You move.
If you don’t like it? Go to hell.
The Cost of Being Yourself, Part 2: Getting Dressed.
Boy, can it be expensive to be transgender. The medications can be costly (I’m lucky with medications and the insurance I’m part of), the doctors can be expensive (again, lucky on the insurance), and there are a lot of things to worry about. But one of the more depressing things is clothing and shoes.
Let me talk about it some more.
Transgender Things: The Cost of Being Yourself, Part 1: Name Changes
A name change is important – you want to be yourself, and when you’re transgender, your name is a big, big part of it. This got brought up in a comment on my last post, so I thought I’d go into a bit of detail about the costs for a name change here where I live in the state of Pennsylvania.
Transgender Things: A Day Out
Today, I got a message from my wife asking me if I would like to meet up with her for lunch. I hadn’t seen her workplace, so I figured, sure! I decided to step up and embrace my transgender self for this trip.
Transgender Things: Reporting Some Excellent News, For Once.
I’m a little late on the Trans Day of Visibility, since it was March 31, and it’s now a week later. But I just recently got some very awesome information to show.
I am a proud scion of the state of New Jersey, and on the Transgender Day of Visibility, the governor of the state, the inestimable Phillip Murphy, declared it in an executive order as a sanctuary state. This means that if you prescribe trans health care, then move to NJ, or you’ve moved to NJ from a transgender-hostile state that bans trans health care, they won’t lift a finger to help you get extradited.
In addition, about the same time, the state opened a site at https://transgender.nj.gov/ to give a central point for transgender people to get information on the laws, processes, and resources in New Jersey they can access.
This is incredibly good news, and there’s the possibility of crossing the river again. So we will see…
And now, a bit of music that may be a little relevant.
From The Calendar: Transgender Awareness Week
This week is Transgender Awareness Week.
If you have read this, you are now aware of me.
Transitions: Medication update
After a bunch of time and waiting, I finally got my medications in order properly again. Which is nice. I also added in one more.
Transitions: Some More Changes
This weekend, I went out on Sunday and got something else done to feminize my appearance a bit as part of my transition.
Transitions: What Else We Did This Weekend
A couple of days ago I mentioned that my wife and I played hooky this past weekend on Friday, but then on Saturday we did some more things, one of which I would never have expected to do if you’d asked me about it a couple of years ago.